The Holiday Season is often followed by the Decision to divorce – I call it: “The Decision”.
For couples with young children, The Decision must consider them. From a child’s point of view, divorce is often seen as the death of a child’s family, at least as the child has known the family. This “death” can result in outcomes including Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
In the lives of young children, no decision of their parents can have a more negative effect than The Decision. That is exactly the reason couples should take a few extra steps before The Decision.
First, talk alone about The Decision.
“But, we can’t talk! That’s why we’re divorcing!” Well listen! If your child was lying in an emergency room and the two of you had to talk and make a decision, would you talk? If your answer is “Of course”, well, in your child’s life, this is just as important.
-Is divorce the only choice?
-Is divorce the only answer?
-Is divorce necessary now, while the children are young?
If you cannot talk, then talk with a professional. Yes, it is that important in the lives of your children. Also, if the first professional “just isn’t right,” try another, and another.
If you have done all you can to keep the family “alive” and, still, divorce is necessary, then you have probably done all that you can.
ANTHONY C. ADAMOPOULOS’ DIVORCE RESOLUTION SERVICES
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