By: Anthony C. Adamopoulos, Divorce Arbitrator, Mediator & Collaborative Lawyer
Divorce Month is almost here. In 2016, I saw one of the saddest, unnecessary, adversarial divorces ever. The cost in emotions, future harmony and money was enormous and unnecessary.
So again, I urge everyone who is facing divorce to consider seriously staying out of the public adversarial divorce system. It will hurt and it will hurt way into the future.
Staying out of the “system” generally means choosing one of two processes, either confidential mediation or confidential Collaborative Divorce. Take the time to read about these important confidential divorce approaches at The Three Approaches to Divorce.
If the two of you agree on only one thing, let it be that you will use confidential mediation or confidential Collaborative Divorce.
Hand in hand with the right approach is the right lawyer. Not all divorce lawyers are qualified to do divorce mediation or Collaborative Divorce. Mediation requires training and success. Collaborative Attorneys need to be certified. Believe me, this is not the time to go to your third cousin’s friend’s real estate lawyer.
For more information about Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Divorce:
The Three Approaches – Graphically
The Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council
The Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation